No More "F" Bombs

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Yesterday I had a conversation about the word fat and what it means.  I'm not talking about the Webster's definition, rather the emotional attachment that it has and how we perceive it.  After reading an article from Psychology Today, I felt it was responsible to share. 


FIVE TIPS TO GET YOU THROUGH A "F" TALK FREE WEEK:

1) Label Emotions. Instead of, "I feel fat," try to be more specific. When you hear yourself saying, "I feel fat," use actual feeling words to describe your emotions like angry, upset or frustrated. You are likely to see that it can be challenging to erase this common phrase.

2) Stop F Talk. When people start to talk negatively about their bodies or get into obsessive diet talk, simply change the topic. Divert. Introduce a more positive conversation. Don't allow F talk to be normal, casual conversation.

3) Don't Ask. Avoid the little phrase our partners hate to hear, "Do I look fat in this?" If you must, a better choice is, "Does this look flattering?"

4) Stop Judging, Be Compassionate. Avoid giving compliments to people who have lost weight. Many people twist positive comments around (ex. what did they think of me before I lost weight?). Also, we don't know if someone has lost weight in truly healthy ways. You may unknowingly be complimenting unhealthy or dangerous behavior. When you use the "f" word to judge, investigate this closely. What do you really feel about this person? Why?

5) Speak Mindfully. Use more mindful words to describe your body. You can do this by observing and describing (I have brown hair). Instead of saying, "I feel fat" when you overeat, say "I feel too full", a more accurate description.